Is Anger Destroying Your Life
- Do you feel under constant stress and pressure like you are backed into a wall and there is no way out?
- Does this feeling fill you up with rage and you take it out on others who don't deserve it?
- Has your anger made a bad situation worse?
- Have you lost family and friends because of your temper?
- Have you been passed up for job opportunities and promotions because of your "attitude"?
- Do you feel so out of control that there is no hope for you?
Don't fear, there is still hope for you yet!
You really are a good person, but haven't found an effective way to deal with the pressures of life. Before all this anger consumes you, ruins your career, destroys your family and your health, do something about it now!
Life can be great when you know how to deal with your anger. Get that boost of confidence you need to deal with any situation that has made you feel trapped in the past. By using simple techniques you can learn at home, you can reverse the damages you have created in your life and create the lifestyle you really want.Click Here to find out how you can learn anger management at home.
Playing the Prosperity Game
The Prosperity Game Free to sign up and play I love playing this game
The world is awash in money! Do you hear what that means? It is awash in money. It is flowing for everyone. It is like Niagara Falls. And most of you are showing up with your teaspoons. -- Abraham-Hicks
Smiling is infectious, You catch it like the flu. When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner, and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realized, I'd passed it to him. I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth. A single smile just like mine, could travel the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undetected. Let's start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected!
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
I feel motivated and ready to take action.
"Nothing is too good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to happen. Nothing is too good to last."
-- Florence Scovel Shinn
From the daily motivator
The power of forgiveness
Inflicting pain on someone else cannot do anything to ease your own pain. When you have been hurt, there is nothing to be gained by passing the hurt on to another.When others have caused you pain, give forgiveness. Sincere forgiveness is the fastest way to begin moving positively forward again.
Forgiveness does not mean that you agree with or condone whatever has been done. It means that you no longer choose to let those past actions hold you back.
Your willingness to forgive does not mean that you are willing to be hurt again. In fact, forgiveness frees you to take positive steps that will make you stronger and much less vulnerable.
When you feel the desire for revenge, stop and remind yourself that there is a much more powerful response. Forgiveness is the way to put yourself in the best possible position.
Can you find the strength to forgive? Forgive, and you will surely grow stronger
-- Ralph Marston
Joke sort of
Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.
He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as knowing when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm, life isn't always fair, and maybe it was my fault.
Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you earn) and reliable parenting strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).
His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a six-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.
Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job they themselves failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.
It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer Panadol, sun lotion or a Band Aid to a student , but could not inform the parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.
Common Sense lost the will to live as the Ten commandments became contraband, churches became businesses, and criminals received better treatment than their victims.
Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.
Common Sense finally gave up the will to live after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.
Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust;his wife, Discretion; his daughter, responsibility; and his son,Reason.He is survived by three stepbrothers; I Know My Rights, Someone Else is to Blame, and I'm A Victim.
Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.
Monday, July 30, 2007
I have unlimited energy, creativity and drive.
One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody, everything, every night before you go to bed.
-Bernard M. Baruch
To add to the above statement you are included in the everbody. Forgive yourself. Dont beat yourself up mentally.
From the daily motivator
People who cause you problems also give you something of real and lasting positive value. They provide you with the opportunity to practice and build your patience.Patience is a profoundly powerful and useful thing to have. It can bring real value into your life in almost any situation.
With patience, you can achieve a thousand times more than what you could achieve without it. With patience, you can listen, learn, work and prosper instead of lashing out at every frustration.
Patience enables you to see and to experience rich treasures that you otherwise would have missed completely. Patience gives you the ability to forge deep and meaningful connections with others.
Practice patience, and you avoid costly careless mistakes. Live with patience, and you have the persistence to create great things.
Be truly thankful for each opportunity you receive to strengthen your patience. For it will surely bring new richness to your life.
-- Ralph Marston
After every flight, pilots fill out a form, called a gripe sheet which tells mechanics about problems with the aircraft. The mechanics correct the problems, document their repairs on the form, and then pilots review the gripe sheets before the next flight. Never let it be said that ground crews lack a sense of humor. Here are some maintenance complaints submitted by pilots and the solutions recorded by maintenance engineers. By the way, the airline these came from is the only major airline that has never, ever, had an accident.
Pilot: Left inside main tire almost needs replacement.
Engineers: Almost replaced left inside main tire.
Good Im glad they almost replaced that tire.
Pilot: Test flight OK, except auto-land very rough.
Engineers: Auto-land not installed on this aircraft.
Aww why not
Pilot: Something loose in cockpit.
Engineers: Something tightened in cockpit.
Good cant have something loose in the cockpit
Pilot: Dead bugs on windshield.
Engineers: Live bugs on back-order.
Oh good need those live bugs
Pilot: Autopilot in altitude-hold mode produces a 200 feet per minute descent.
Engineers: Cannot reproduce problem on ground.
Aww why not
Pilot: Evidence of leak on right main landing gear.
Engineers: Evidence removed.
Good cant have that evidence around
Pilot: DME volume unbelievably loud.
Engineers: DME volume set to more believable level.
Well its about time
Pilot: Friction locks cause throttle levers to stick.
Engineers: That's what friction locks are for.
Hmmm you dont say
Pilot: IFF inoperative in OFF mode.
Engineers: IFF always inoperative in OFF mode.
Pilot: Suspected crack in windshield.
Engineers: Suspect you're right.
Pilot: Number 3 engine missing.
Engineers: Engine found on right wing after brief search.
Oh good cant have them engines missing
Pilot: Aircraft handles funny.
Engineers: Aircraft warned to straighten up, fly right, and be serious.
Oh good cant have funny acting aircrafts
Pilot: Target radar hums.
Engineers: Reprogrammed target radar with lyrics.
Good I wonder what song is playing
Pilot: Mouse in cockpit.
Engineers: Cat installed.
Good they can always use a cat
Pilot: Noise coming from under instrument panel. Sounds like a midget pounding on something with a hammer.
Engineers: Took hammer away from midget
hmmmmmmmmmm I wonder if that midget got any shots in before they got that hammer away from him LOL
Sunday, July 29, 2007
I know and accept the universal law that sharing my abundance draws more abundance to me.
"The Best Way to Predict Your Future... is to Create it!"
From the daily motivator
Some of the greatest treasures in your life may be things you set aside long ago. Often it pays to go back and take a look.A book you read years ago may now hold much more meaning. A friend from whom you once grew apart may now have much more in common with you.
There is a reason why people, places, things and events come into your life. Be careful that you're not too quick to discard them.
The things that interested you in your youth still have a message for you today. They can tell you about who you truly are.
Just because something is old and familiar, does not mean it is irrelevant. Values, passions and purposes grow more robust with time and experience.
You've arrived at this moment carrying a lifetime of valuable treasures. Now is your opportunity to see those treasures in a whole new light.
-- Ralph Marston
Free drinks for everyone
One night, a drunk comes stumbling into a bar and says to the bartender: "Drinks for all on me including you, bartender." So the bartender follows the mans orders and says: "That will be $36.50 please." The drunk says he has no money so the bartender slaps him around and throws him out.
The next night the same drunk comes in again and orders a drink for everyone in the bar including the bartender. Again the bartender follows instructions and again the drunk says he has no money. So the bartender slaps him around and throws him out.
On the third night he comes in, the drunk orders drinks for all except the bartender. "What, no drink for me?" replies the bartender. "Oh, no. You get violent when you drink."
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Prosperity is mine now. I think it, I believe it, I act on it and create it at all times.
"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind."
From the daily motivator
Happiness is now
As long as you are preparing to be happy, you will not be. If you continue to see happiness as some distant goal to be reached, you will not experience it.Happiness is now. The only time you can ever experience it is the moment that you are in.
Happiness is unconditional. When you put conditions on happiness, it immediately disappears.
Happiness makes no judgments or demands. When you focus on judging others and making demands of them, it drives happiness away from your life.
Though happiness is simple and uncomplicated, it is at the same time profound and sophisticated. For when you allow yourself to be truly happy, the positive energy can reach into every corner of your life.
Set aside the complaints, excuses, conditions and demands, and make a place for happiness in your world. Be happy, and you'll discover a whole new level of life's richness.
-- Ralph Marston
Mrs. Jones was reading a letter at breakfast. Suddenly she looked up suspiciously at her husband.
"Henry," she said, "I've just received a letter from mother saying she isn't accepting our invitation to come and stay, as we do not appear to want her. What does she mean by that? I told you to write and say that she was to come at her own convenience. You did write, didn't you?"
"Er, yes, I did," said the husband. "But I, I couldn't spell 'convenience,' so I made it 'risk.'"
Everything in the universe is energy. My positive thoughts, words and actions attract each other bringing prosperity and blessings.
"All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night…wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes, to make it possible."
T.E. Lawrence, Seven Pillars of Wisdom
From the daily motivator
The courage to be you
You are unique, with your own special beauty and value to give to life. What a terrible shame it would be if you were to let that beauty be hidden behind your fears.When you worry that you're not good enough, you allow others to control you, and their domination will soon make you miserable. Or when you fool yourself into thinking you're superior to everyone else, you deny yourself the exquisite joy of offering your own special gifts to life.
It takes courage and faith, effort and initiative to be who you are. And it is so very much worth the effort.
Though no one else can do it for you, you have what it takes to be magnificently successful at being you. From the deepest secrets of your soul to the face you put forward to the world, every bit of you is meant to be the authentic and original person you are.
Listen to that quiet, persistent voice inside that you know is always right. This is your opportunity to fulfill and express the real and lasting joy of being you.
Let the beautiful person inside of you come more fully to life as each moment passes. Let yourself, and the world around you, know the joy and fulfillment that is meant just for you to express.
-- Ralph Marston
The New Pastor
A new pastor moved into town and went out one Saturday to visit his community. All went well until he came to one house. It was obvious that someone was home, but no one came to the door even after he knocked several times. Finally, he took out his card, wrote on the back "Revelation 3:20" and stuck it in the door. The next day, as he was counting the offering he found his card in the collection plate. Below his message was a notation "Genesis 3:10." Upon opening his Bible to the passage he let out a roar of laughter.
Revelation 3:20 reads: (Pastors note) "Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If any man hear my voice, and opens the door, I will come into him, and will dine with him, and he with me."
Genesis 3:10 reads: "And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked."
Thursday, July 26, 2007
I am manifesting success by living well, laughing often, and loving much.
"No one lives long enough to learn everything they need to learn starting from scratch. To be successful, we absolutely, positively have to find people who have already paid the price to learn the things that we need to learn to achieve our goals."
-- Brian Tracy
Whatever you intend with the whole of your being cannot help but come about in your life. Your authentic intentions form a magnificent pathway upon which are countless opportunities to discover and create richness and fulfillment.Relax your mind and get beyond the noise of worries, frustrations, strife and conflict. In that powerful, peaceful place you can connect to the pure energy of your most sincere intentions.
Intentions are not mere wishes for things that might seem desirable only in the limited context of the moment. Truly powerful intentions come from deep within your most profound and sincere sense of purpose.
Look at life not from a perspective of fear, for fear will drain all the energy from your intentions. Look at life from a perspective of love.
Continually live in gratitude for what is, and you give real power to your intentions for what can be. Give your best to each moment, and your intentions benefit fully from your efforts.
Align your intentions with your most deeply held values and purpose. And those intentions will surely become real.
-- Ralph Marston
Mom's Time Out
My Parents had not been out together in quite some time.
One Saturday, as Mom was finishing the dinner dishes, my father stepped up behind her.
"Would you like to go out, girl?" he asked.
Not even turning around, my mother quickly replied, "Oh, yes, I'd love to!"
They had a wonderful evening, and it wasn't until the end of it that Dad confessed.
His question had actually been directed to the family dog, lying near Mom's feet on the kitchen floor.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
I am now enjoying the best life has to offer.
"Get your eyes, words, and thoughts OFF of what-is, and put them purely on what you now want. The more you think and speak of what you want, the faster what you want will be yours."
Joy is not something you find. It is something you choose to create, to live and to experience.The experience of joy does not in any way deplete the amount of joy available. On the contrary, the experience of joy makes possible even more profound and sustained joy.
Some would say that joy is not possible, or not realistic, or not appropriate in certain situations. Yet those very situations are the ones to which joy can bring the most value.
Joy requires nothing and gives much. And you have the truly magnificent ability to create joy.
Joy is not the result of success. Joy is, in fact, a significant cause of success.
Make this day joyful by filling it with joy. The more you choose to experience it, the more joy there will be.
-- Ralph Marston
Saving All The Seats
A man lay sprawled across three entire seats in the posh theatre. When the usher came by and noticed this, he whispered to the man, "Sorry, sir, but you're only allowed one seat." The man groaned but didn't budge. The usher became impatient. "Sir, if you don't get up from there I'm going to have to call the manager." Again, the man just groaned, which infuriated the usher who turned and marched briskly back up the aisle in search of his manager.
In a few moments, both the usher and the manager returned and stood over the man. Together the two of them tried repeatedly to move him, but with no success. Finally, they summoned the police. The cop surveyed the situation briefly then asked, "All right buddy, what's your name?"
"Sam," the man moaned.
"Where ya from, Sam?"
With pain in his voice Sam replied, "The balcony."
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
I am nurtured and fulfilled, my entire being is balanced, vital, and healthy.
Life is overflowing with the new. But it is necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.
Stop and consider
Before you choose to become angry, consider that your anger is not likely to achieve anything. Remind yourself that there is a more positive and productive response available to you.Before you allow an unexpected distraction to throw you off course, consider that you do have another choice. You can choose to move quickly beyond the distraction, and to stay focused on your original task.
When you're tempted to feel resentful or sorry for yourself, stop and consider that such feelings will only intensify your difficulties. Choose instead to feel gratitude and to experience the real empowerment it can bring.
If you just don't feel like making the effort, stop and reconsider. Make the most of each opportunity to create value before that opportunity slips away.
When it seems that nothing is going your way, consider that in every defeat there are the seeds of triumph. Choose to find the positive aspects and to build on them.
Before you give your time, energy and effort to negativity, stop and thoughtfully consider the implications of what you're about to do. Give yourself the chance to choose a more positive and enriching path.
-- Ralph Marston
I had been doing Tech Support for Hewlett-Packard's DeskJet division for about a month when I had a customer call with a problem I just couldn't solve. She could not print yellow. All the other colors would print fine, which truly baffled me because the only true colors are cyan, magenta, and yellow.
For instance, green is a combination of cyan and yellow, but green printed fine. Every color of the rainbow printed fine except for yellow. I had the customer change ink cartridges. I had the customer delete and reinstall the drivers. Nothing worked. I asked my coworkers for help; they offered no new ideas.
After over two hours of troubleshooting, I was about to tell the customer to send the printer in to us for repair when she asked quietly, "Should I try printing on a piece of white paper instead of this yellow paper?"
Monday, July 23, 2007
Abundance is my natural state of being. I accept it now.
"To succeed in any undertaking, any art or any trade or any profession, simply keep it ever persistently fixed in mind as an aim, and then study to make all effort toward it play or recreation. The moment it becomes hard work, we are not advancing." -- Prentice Mulford
Your own destiny You have the power to control your own destiny. You may not feel at all comfortable with that, or want to own up to the responsibility it implies, yet it is true nonetheless.You may complain that there are so many powerful and overwhelming outside forces acting upon you that nothing you do will matter. Yet everything you do matters to the highest degree in creating your own destiny.It may seem that fate has dealt you a certain hand, and that there is no way for you to change that fate. You can, however, change everything about your own perspective and the way you respond.For your destiny is not about what comes to you. It is about who you choose to become.Your destiny is not really about what happens to you. It is built and fulfilled by the things that you cause to happen, by what you do with the precious life you have.It happens in every moment, with every choice, with every thought and every action. Always, you are creating your own unique destiny.-- Ralph Marston
An enthusiastic door-to-door vacuum salesman goes to the first house in his new territory. He knocks, a real mean and tough looking lady opens the door, and before she has a chance to say anything, he runs inside and dumps cow patties all over the carpet.
He says, "Lady, if this vacuum cleaner don't do wonders cleaning this up, I'll eat every chunk of it."
She turns to him with a smirk and says, "You want ketchup on that?"
The salesman says, "Why do you ask?"
She says, "We just moved in and we haven't got the electricity turned on yet."
For cutting the grass: $5.00 For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00 For going to the store for you: .50 Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: .25 Taking out the garbage: $1.00 For getting a good report card: $5.00 For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
--------- Total owed: $14.75
Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:
For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me: No Charge.
For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge.
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years: No Charge.
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead: No Charge.
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose: No Charge, Son.
When you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.
When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight up at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: "PAID IN FULL".
-- Author Unknown
-- Author Unknown
When I was still driving a big rig over the road I was having a really rotten day. Nothing seemed to be going right that day. I was in a rotten mood, driving along and I looked down in a mini van that was passing me. This little girl she might have been 3 or 4 looked up at me and smiled and waved at me, that turned my whole day around. We never know what someone might be going through smile it might make their day a whole lot better. Also if your having a bad day smile, it will be real hard to stay in a bad mood long when your smiling. In other words fake it till your day gets better. Smile
Monday, July 16, 2007
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If: ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ is represented as: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K 8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
and K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that while hard work and knowledge will get you close, Attitude will get you ALL THE WAY. (~by Anonymous)
"Get your eyes, words, and thoughts OFF of what-is, and put them purely on what you now want. The more you think and speak of what you want, the faster what you want will be yours."
What the Young Man Heard
By Rebecca Fine
In the latter half of the 1800s, when the telegraph was still "high tech," a young man in Baltimore, Maryland, woke up one summer morning giddy with excitement. In fact, it had taken him half the night to get to sleep at all.
Today was the day he'd apply for his first job! But what was really exciting was that, if he were lucky enough to be chosen for the position, he'd actually be getting PAID for something that absolutely enthralled him. He'd be a real, bona fide telegraph operator!
His mind was so filled with wonderful pictures of himself sending and receiving important messages, communicating with people miles away — even clear across the country — that the possibility of NOT getting the job couldn't get a foot in the door.
He didn't even mind wearing a stiff collar and tie. After all, this was an important job, and he liked the idea of looking the part. Giving his shoes one last buffing, he dashed out the door and raced downtown to the telegraph office.
Inside, the office was already bustling with activity and noise, including the sound of the telegraph clattering away in the background. Several other applicants were seated in the waiting area, hunched over paperwork. Our young man saw a stack of job applications with a sign instructing candidates to take one, fill it out, and then wait to be called into the Director's office for an interview. So he eagerly grabbed one and sat down.
The form itself took only a few minutes to complete, and as he finished and started to look around at the other job hopefuls in the room ...
... the young man suddenly jumped from his chair and with his paperwork in hand, marched over to the Director's office door and went right in without even knocking!
"Did you see that?" one of the other jobseekers snorted. "We're supposed to wait until we're called, and that rube barges in like he owns the place."
"Yeah, that's some nerve, but it just cuts down the competition," said another, and they all laughed.
Moments later the laughter and comments stopped as the Director's door opened and both he and the beaming young man came out into the waiting area.
"Gentlemen," the Director said, "thank you for coming, and I wish you all well. The job has been filled."
Stunned into silence, no one said anything for a moment. Then, the fellow who had started the derisive comments sputtered, "Now wait a minute. This isn't fair! We were here first but we never even got a chance, and he gets the job just like that?"
The others grumbled in agreement, but the Director put up his hand. "Here's the thing," he said.
"All this time you were sitting here, the telegraph has been clicking away, saying: 'If you can understand this, come on into the office right now. You've got the job.'
As he clapped his hand on the young man's shoulder, he smiled broadly and said, "This young fellow was the only one of you who heard or understood the message."
Why did this young man alone hear and understand the message? Listen to what Scottish psychologist R. D. Laing had to say on this subject:
"The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change -- until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds."
You'll probably need to read that a couple of times. (I sure did!) Then just let it sink in a bit.
Now, wouldn't it be great if you could just put on a special pair of glasses that would magically cause all the opportunities that come your way every single day to stand out from all the background "noise?" To jump into sharp relief against what Mr. Wattles calls "mere appearances" so that you could notice them?
Just imagine that for a minute. Everything looks normal one moment — all the everyday hassles, the BIG problems, the regular stresses and frustrations, and so on. Life going on all around, as usual.
And then you put on your magic specs (which, by the way, are extremely cool and you look fabulous in them!), and — wow! — the entire world looks SO different!
Suddenly you see connections you hadn't noticed before. Suddenly what previously looked like a HUGE problem you were trying to put off dealing with has magically morphed into a lucky break.
And people look different, too — even some of the grumpy, disagreeable ones are starting to shape up.
Yeah, wouldn't it be great if you could do that?
Well, you can!
And you don't need magic glasses any more than the young man in our story above needed a special hearing aid.
Why did he, and he alone, hear opportunity knocking?
It couldn't be because he was the only one interested in the job. There were other applicants sitting there with him.
It couldn't be because he was the only one who knew Morse code. After all, it was a telegrapher's job they were after.
It couldn't be because he was more experienced. This was his first job.
And it wasn't for any of those other reasons Mr. Wattles tells us don't really matter (right there in Chapter 2).
Have you figured out why our hero heard the message? Well, here's a clue from Mr. Wattles in The Science of Getting Rich:
"Contemplate your picture in your leisure hours until your consciousness is so full of it that you can grasp it instantly. You will become so enthused with its bright promises that the mere thought of it will call forth the strongest energies of your whole being."
Bingo! There it is! His mind was so filled with his clear mental image of himself as a telegraph operator that he could see, hear, smell, and taste that "image." He really wanted it and could vividly imagine himself having it. It was REAL to him — as real as if it were already true.
And it called forth the strongest energies of his whole being. It allowed him to hear what others couldn't.
When your mind is so focused in this way, you are STRONGLY impressing your image on the Formless and causing that image to move toward you, to move into physical reality. You become so attuned that your senses are heightened and your awareness expands. You can see and hear and notice things that totally escaped you before.
Your brain's special 'pay attention to this!' system Did you know your brain even has a special area that handles this whole area of "noticing?" It's called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), and part of what it does is cause you to notice things that were ALWAYS there before unnoticed until you somehow clue it in about what to start noticing.
For example, did you ever get a new car (or even just think a LOT about getting one) and then it suddenly seemed that EVERYONE must have just bought one? Suddenly, that very same model — even the same color — is showing up EVERYWHERE?
That's the RAS at work.
It's filtering all the zillions of messages your five senses are constantly passing along and deciding which ones are important — important enough for you to consciously notice. (It's determining also what goes into your subconscious mind where the belief system that runs your life is built.) And one way you "program" your RAS to send up a "hey, look at this!" signal is by what you focus on by CHOICE.
It's what we're referring to when we say that what you see around you depends on what you're looking for — in experiences, circumstances, in other people, and on and on. And it works just as well when you put your focus, faith, and feeling on what you do NOT want, too. It's totally neutral, and it's on the job in your every waking moment.
With a new car, of course, the novelty wears off fairly soon, your interest fades, and so the RAS stops signalling you to notice all the lime green Volkswagen Beetle convertibles whizzing by.
But when you follow Mr. Wattles' advice, you're giving the RAS steady instructions to keep its radar going. And the result is like wearing those magic glasses:
"Imagine an environment and a financial condition exactly as you want them, and live all the time in that mental environment and financial condition until they take physical shape.
"See the things you want as if they were actually around you all the time. See yourself as owning and using them. Make use of them in imagination just as you will use them when they are your tangible possessions.
"Dwell upon your mental picture until it is clear and distinct, and then take the mental attitude of ownership toward everything in that picture. Take possession of it, in mind, in the full faith that it is actually yours. Hold to this mental ownership. Do not waiver for an instant in the faith that it is real."
When you do this, when you enthusiastically and steadily hold your vision — like the young man in our story — you'll be amazed at what you start to notice and astonished at how you seem to hear and see wonderful opportunities where others do not!
--- .--. .--. --- .-. - ..- -. .. - -.-- .. ... -. --- .-- .... . .-. .
Need a guide to Morse code to decipher the message above? Go here: www.babbage.demon.co.uk/morseabc.html
Thursday, July 12, 2007
How A Down and Out Baseball Player Boosted His Income 700 Per Cent in Ten Short Days
By Rebecca Fine
$185 may not seem like much (at least not here in North America), but when it's your whole month's pay — and when last month you were getting only $25 — it takes on some serious significance.
Now imagine yourself back in the year 1907, and that $185 starts to look a whole lot better, doesn't it?
That's when a young baseball player named Frank Bettger discovered a simple secret that changed his whole life.
And while he probably didn't realize it, he also discovered a surefire way to "more than fill [his] present place" and to give everyone he encountered "the impression of increase."
Bettger made his discovery the way many of us learn our best lessons: He was under the gun and HAD to come up with a solution. He'd been fired by the manager of the Johnstown, Pennsylvania, team, and things looked pretty grim. But as we learn in the amazing 1910 forgotten classic, The Science of Getting Rich, TRUTH is usually difficult to see when "appearances" loom large.
Was getting sent down to a bush league team that paid peanuts a good thing or a bad thing? Well, let's see ...
As the manager sent Frank on his way, he gave him these words of advice: "Whatever you do after you leave here, for heaven's sake, wake yourself up, and put some life and enthusiasm into your work!"
See, Frank had been so nervous, so scared that he'd been holding back on the field, taking it easy and playing it "safe." He thought he was successfully hiding his fear from everyone, but he was only holding himself back, holding himself down.
(Ever been THERE? I sure have!)
Fortunately, Frank took his manager's words to heart. On his first day with his new team in Connecticut he determined that from then on, no one would ever be able to accuse him of being lazy. He said, "I made up my mind to establish the reputation of being the most enthusiastic ball player they'd ever seen in the New England League.
"I thought if I could establish such a reputation, then I'd have to live up to it."
My friend, that last line right there is brilliant strategy! And Frank implemented his strategy right away. That first day, with the temperature nearing 100 degrees, he became a wild man on the field, running, throwing and hitting with force and feeling — and leaving players, coaches, and spectators all shaking their heads and wondering what on earth was going on.
For example, he slid into third so energetically that the third baseman fumbled the ball and Frank was able to go on and score just when the team really needed a run.
And here's the zinger: It was all a show, just an act, just pretend. Frank was practicing what people today call "Fake it 'til you make it." He didn't feel enthusiastic at all. He just CHOSE to act "as if" he did.
Did it work? Well, listen up to Frank's own words ...
It worked like magic. Three things happened:
1. My enthusiasm almost entirely overcame my fear. In fact my nervousness began to work FOR me, and I played far better than I ever thought I was capable of playing. (If you are nervous be thankful. Don't hold it back. Turn it on. Let your nerves work FOR you.)
2. My enthusiasm affected the other players on the team, and they too became enthusiastic.
3. Instead of dropping with the heat, I felt better during the game and after it was over than I had ever felt before.
The next morning the newspapers were all over Frank, calling him an inspiration. Better yet, within ten days his $25 a month shot up to $185, and Frank notes, "Let me repeat — nothing but the determination to ACT ENTHUSIASTIC increased my income 700% in ten days! I got this stupendous increase in salary not because I could throw a ball better — or catch or hit better, not because I had any more ability as a ball player. I didn't know any more about baseball than I did before."
And two years later Frank's income had multiplied an incredible 30 times over — all because of enthusiasm.
Now some of us scoff and approach this subject in a way my great-grandma would have called (excuse me, please) "bass ackward." We think things have to be really good and THEN we'll be enthusiastic. But that's sort of like telling your car that if it'll only get you across town right now, you'll fill up the gas tank later!
One of the questions I get asked most has to do with the concept of being bigger than your present place — so that you are ready to evolve upward into a larger place (with larger rewards). The other most frequent question is, how do I give the impression of increase to others?
Well, my friend, Frank has shown us one EXCELLENT way to do both! In fact, enthusiasm is probably the most important and most effective way. And you CAN do it, and you can begin doing it right this very moment. (In fact, Mr. Wattles would surely say that THIS is an appropriate use of the will, don't you agree?)
Don't feel enthusiastic? So what? Be like Frank! Anthony Robbins has people stand up, lift their chins and look upward, hold their arms out wide, put big smiles on their faces, then vigorously swing their arms together in a big handclap while shouting "Yes!" And then again, and again, and so on.
See, one part of the enthusiasm formula — as Frank discovered on that sweltering baseball field — is that if you make a change in your physical state, you get a corresponding change in your emotional one. Try it.
Don't like your present job? What if you temporarily pretend you do and attack it with fresh enthusiasm — yeah, even fake enthusiasm — today? All day. Just play the part. You might get an immediate change in the situation — or you might have to keep on pumping enthusiasm in for a while.
What have you got to lose?
And if you DO like what you're doing, you can still load in a fresh supply of enthusiasm and see what happens. It worked for Frank! And it's worked for countless others through the years. It works as well or better today as it ever did. I know this from my own experience and you probably know it, too — even if you've forgotten.
(Not to worry. Frank forgot it himself and had to rediscover it years later when he became a salesman — a sorry, sorry salesman 'til he rediscovered the power of enthusiasm.)
The founder of the Methodist church, John Wesley, once advised, "Catch on fire with enthusiasm and people will come for miles to watch you burn."
My friend, if you're in that place where nothing seems to be going right, or perhaps it's more that nothing's really WRONG, but you're just feeling restless or dissatisfied, it's time to light your own fire — and to be the great, blazing torch of a person you were born to be!
You can — and you ARE! If you need to do this, please start right now, this very moment. You'll see (and feel!) great results in every area of your life.
And our world needs the light. YOUR light.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
When we deserve love the least is when we need it the most!
Creativity can be described as letting go of certainties. -Gail Sheehy
I am always doing things I can't do; that's how I get to do them. -Pablo Picasso
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Allow others to give you loving care. Receive without guilt or apologies. -Doreen Virtue, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, They learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, They learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule, They learn to be shy.
If children live with shame, They learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, They learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, They learn to be patient.
If children live with praise, They learn to appreciate.
If children live with acceptance, They learn to love.
If children live with approval, They learn to like themselves.
If children live with honesty, They learn truthfulness.
If children live with security, They learn to have faith in them- selves and others.
If children live with friendliness, They learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
– Dorothy Law Nolte
We only go around once. There's really no time to be afraid. So stop. Try something you’ve never tried. Teach it. Do it. Risk it. -Jon Blais
Take time to think... it is the source of power.
Take time to play... it is the secret of perpetual youth.
Take time to read... it is the fountain of wisdom.
Take time to pray... it is the greatest power on earth.
Take time to love and be loved... it is a God-given privilege.
Take time to be friendly... it is the road to happiness.
Take time to laugh... it is the music of the soul.
Take time to give... it is too short a day to be selfish.
Take time to work... it is the price of success.
Take time to do charity... it is the key to fulfillment.
– Author Unknown
I would rather stumble a thousand times
Attempting to reach a goal
Than to sit in a crowd In my weather-proof shroud
A shriveled and self-satisfied soul.
I would rather be doing and daring
All of my error-filled days
Than watching, and waiting, and dying
Smug in my perfect ways. I would rather wonder and blunder
Stumbling blindly ahead
Than for safety's sake
Lest I make a mistake
Be sure, be safe, be dead.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit…
Rest if you must—but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out.
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems afar.
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,
It's when things go wrong That you mustn't quit.
To fully live,
to fully love,
to get close to someone,
Is to become vulnerable
and risk getting hurt.
But to stay in my shell
where I feel
comfortable and safe
is a greater risk by far—
For to risk nothing
is to risk everything.
Instead of living fully
I'll be dying slowly
And never will discover
the joy of loving nor the high
achievement of becoming
all that I was meant
and created to be.
– Dick Innes
"I would rather fail in a cause that will ultimately triumph than to triumph in a cause that will ultimately fail." – Jim Elliot
"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self." – Cyril Connolly
Everyone can be great because everyone can serve...You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love. -Martin Luther King Jr.
A good laugh is sunshine in a house. -William Makepeace Thackeray
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. -T.S. Eliot
It takes courage to grow up and be who you really are. -E.E. Cummings
Remember that unpleasant feelings will pass. Notice rather than react. -Barbara Ann Kipfer
Born to Fly
A naturalist visiting a farm one day was surprised to see a beautiful eagle in the farmer's chicken coop. Befuddled, he asked, "Why in the world is that eagle living with chickens?"
"Well," answered the farmer, "I found an abandoned eagle's egg one day and laid it in the coop, and a chicken adopted it and raised the creature after it hatched. It doesn't know any better; it thinks it's a chicken." The eagle was even pecking at grain and strutting awkwardly in circles.
"Doesn't it ever try to fly out of there?" asked the naturalist, noticing that the bird never lifted its gaze. "No," said the farmer, "I doubt it even knows what it means to fly."
The naturalist asked to take the eagle a few days for experiments, and the farmer agreed. The scientist placed the eagle on a fence and pushed it off, bellowing, "Fly!" But the bird just fell to the ground and started pecking. He then climbed to the top of a hayloft and did the same thing, but the frightened bird just shrieked and fluttered ungraciously to the barnyard, where it resumed its strutting.
Finally, the naturalist took the docile bird away from the environment to which it had grown accustomed, driving to the highest butte in the county. After a lengthy and sweaty climb to the hillcrest with the bird tucked under his arm, he peered over the edge and then spoke gently: "You were born to soar. It is better that you die here today on the rocks below than live the rest of your life being a chicken. It's not what you are."
Then, with its keen eyesight, the confused bird spotted another eagle soaring on the currents high above the bluff, and a yearning was kindled within it. The naturalist threw the majestic beast up and over the edge, crying out, "Fly! Fly! Fly!"
The eagle began to tumble toward the rocks below, but then it opened its seven-foot span of wings and, with a mighty screech, instinctively began to flap them. Soon it was gliding gracefully, climbing in ever-higher spirals on unseen thermals into the blue sky. Eventually, the mighty eagle disappeared into the glare of the morning sun. The bird had become what it was born to be.
Have you discovered your God-given purpose and potential—and have become or are becoming all that you were born to be?
You don't have to control your thoughts; you just have to stop letting them control you.
God, if I can't have what I want, let me want what I have. -Anonymous prayer
I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know that just to be alive is a grand thing. -Agatha Christie
We know nothing of tomorrow, our business is to be good and happy today. -Sydney Smith
We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today. -Dale Carnegie
When you have only two pennies left in the world, buy a loaf of bread with one, and a lily with the other. -Chinese Proverb
It isn't hard to be good from time to time. What's tough is being good every day. -Willie Mays
The human heart, at whatever age, opens only to the heart that opens in return.
See all beings as enlightened, providing you with the education you need to awaken. Thank them. -Barbara Ann Kipfer
Wisdom is knowing when to speak your mind and when to mind your speech. -Unknown
Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: it might have been.
-Alfred, Lord Tennyson
Good habits are as easy to form as bad ones. -Tim McCarver
Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. -Dave Gardner
Freedom is the oxygen of the soul. -Moshe Dayan
You miss 100 percent of all the shots you never take. -Wayne Gretzky
The Law of Attraction says that what we direct our emotions to will be pulled into our lives.
By Lynn Grabhorn
Way back in the thirties a couple of guys in the Orient were attempting to prove that thoughts were real things, and that different kinds of thoughts create different kinds of vibration. So they decided to see if they could actually photograph vibrations of thought. And by golly they did, right through steel walls, an experiment that's been replicated many times since. (See From Enigma to Science, by George W. Meek, Samuel Weiser Inc. 1977.) But they also proved something else perhaps even more important. They found that the more emotion the thinker/sender charged his thoughts with, the clearer the picture turned out to be! These fellows were possibly the first to prove that there is magnetic energy attached to our thought, and that thought is propelled by our emotions. What they missed, though, is that because the vibrational waves (emotions) we send out are magnetically charged, we are literally walking magnets, constantly pulling back into our world anything that just happens to be playing on the same frequency or wavelength.
For instance, when we're feeling up, filling with joy and gratitude, our emotions are sending out high frequency vibrations that will magnetize only good stuff back to us, meaning anything with the same high vibratory frequency that matches what we're sending out. Like attracts like.
On the other hand, when we're experiencing anything that joy isn't, such as fear, worry, guilt, or even mild concern, those emotions are sending out low-frequency vibrations. Since low frequencies are every bit as magnetic as high frequencies, they're going to attract only cruddy stuff back to us, meaning anything of that same low frequency that will cause us to feel (and vibrate) as [badly] as what we're sending out. We may be flesh and blood, but first and foremost we are energy-magnetic energy at that. Which makes us living, breathing magnets.
By using positive affirmations, we can build confidence and get what we want out of life.
By Charlene M. Proctor, Ph.D
Everyone gets off track from time to time – it’s normal and a consequence of living in a complex, stressful world. Attract abundance and maintain a good mental equivalent by raising your vibration. Raising your vibration means giving loving attention, or energy, to what you want. We get faster results by attuning to an idea of what we want and then allowing it to come into our lives, because we are already in a state of thankfulness that it is here. That is another reason we write affirmations in the present moment: there really isn’t any other time in our lives that is important. Live in the now, thank in the now, love in the now, and allow prosperity to happen in the now, knowing it is already present.
When we concentrate on the effects of the world, rather than our supply, we lower our vibrational quality, making it much harder to demonstrate what we want. You’ve heard the concept of alignment and finding “center” from many spiritual teachers, achieved by chanting, prayer, meditation, chakra balancing, even martial arts or exercise. Those activities help raise your vibrational quality by helping you to identify or resonate with the true self, so that goodness can manifest. Essentially, you are attuning to your God-force. That is why in affirmations, we focus on the “I am” within us and align our vibrational quality with that of our God/Goddess energy. We do a pretty job of cultivating our own negative programming and often bring to the table a lot of negative assumptions about money and abundance that lower our vibration. You might recognize these.
It was never meant for me to have money.
I’m poor but clean (or good, pure, happy, content).
If I want to lead a spiritual life and be closer to God, it means I must have to give everything up.
I’ll be like Christ (or Buddha, Rumi, Mohammed, Mother Teresa) because not having any material wealth means I am purer (or righteous, religious, going to get a better afterlife).
You can live a pure life only without material items.
I don’t want to learn about how money works – I’ll just let ______________do it.
I just want to spend money.
I only care about large sums of money. Why should I pick up a penny off the sidewalk?
It’s not worth my time, so I’ll just do a mediocre (or lousy) job. This shows overall disrespect for your true supply when it’s giving you an opportunity. Choose not to do the job instead!
Prosperity means I have to take something away from someone else.
I can’t enjoy wealth because I feel guilty.
I will never be able to afford that. You are building a “can’t afford” consciousness. You will bring more events and things into your life that you cannot afford.
I can’t imagine having a million dollars – I wouldn’t know what to do with it.
If I had a million dollars, I’d give it all away.
If I become wealthy, why should I be generous? I struggled so long, I’m going to let everyone else know how it feels not to have anything.
People who have money are wealthy snobs.
Being rich is selfish. You can have too much money.
Rich people consume all the world’s natural resources. I love the earth too much to be rich.
Money represents temptation and evil.
I don’t deserve what I really want.
I don’t want this deal not to work out. If you’re constantly worried about lack, you’ll attract it.
I just want to be rich. This one is particularly self-defeating, because you’ll spend your energy on getting the money without any focus on how to do it.
You won’t be able to demonstrate the law of being with this type of mental muck. Start affirming that you are a prosperity magnet because you possess the boundless wealth of the universe without exception. Spend time raising your vibration. Say that you attract all good things today, not tomorrow or next week. Love yourself, praise your abilities in the present moment, and build feelings of confidence.
I am a prosperous, intelligent, capable individual who can do anything.
I deserve health, wealth, love, and happiness in my life. I thank the universe for my opportunities.
I pay my bills with love and joy… Come on, you can do this one!
…I love that I have the ability to pay this bill, and I rejoice in the goods and services I have received as a result of this bill.
I see the abundance in the universe everywhere I go. I see it in myself.
I am a loving individual, who is part of unlimited creation; therefore, I am unlimited in what I can do.
I am my divine self and I choose to demonstrate my highest good. I prosper everywhere I go because I love life.
I am an open channel to receive my abundance from the universe. I am open to new opportunities.
Remain open to the possibility that the universe is infinitely more creative than you in choosing the channel for abundance to flow through. If you outline exactly how you want to receive your good, you are definitely giving the idea some clarity. But be flexible. Devising a mental equivalent to own the winning lottery ticket might be a way to manifest abundance, but you are limiting the avenues by which good can come to you. Likewise, it’s great to visualize opening the front door to discover a huge basketful of money, but it is more likely that the universe will present prosperity through people and opportunities. Be attentive and keep your options open.
Maintain high vibrational quality by practicing verbal harmlessness. Always extend loving thoughts to those around us. What you see in others is what you will see in yourself, and you’ll reproduce that vibration in your immediate environment. You are attracting that which you are, or think you are. If you are attuning to the highest vision of your true self, how can you go wrong? There are also two words you need to eradicate from your vocabulary: hate and try. Hate, because you can’t have hate as part of your mindset even if you are talking about the corned beef sandwich you had for lunch. Try, because if you say you will try something, it implies that you aren’t going to do it now, only sometime in the future.
Learn to set a mental equivalent of gentleness and generosity and act with poise, grace, loving-kindness, ease, and serenity. You’ll be surprised how little practice you will need until you permanently internalize those peaceful qualities within and find others possessing those qualities who are part of your everyday experience.
Practicing verbal harmlessness also applies to what you say about you. Nothing lowers your vibration quicker than self-criticism. Whatever you say about yourself applies to everyone because we’re the same soul substance – and what you see in a mirror is what you will see in every person in your life. If I say I am weak, poor, or broke, I am saying you are too, because we are the same substance. Further, if I say I am stupid, I have just called the Divine stupid – not empowered thinking! By putting yourself down, you are conditioning your mind to believe it, which means you are focusing on lack in yourself. How can the infinite self lack? Become conscious of the spirit within you as your infinite supply. Know that you are composed of perfect soul material. Keep your affirmations in the present tense, be positive, stop using hate and try, stop self-criticism, and know that you are already wonderfully rich.
Use these affirmations to help you overcome the past and focus on moving forward.
By Charlene M. Proctor, Ph.D.
Affirmations are a simple tool we can use to feel better about ourselves. By repeating aloud or silently the positive things we want for our lives, we train our minds to embrace new and joyful possibilities. The following affirmations will help you release negative patterns of the past, gain insight into the present, and learn to forgive. What have you got to lose, except a heavy burden?
Remember to sit quietly and read each affirmation slowly.
1. If You Have Regrets
Life is a curving and fluid journey. Because I am always moving through learning stages, I cannot look back or measure. I learn through my relationships because that is how I begin to define who I am. Nothing is unforgivable in life. I know nursing this hurt is holding me back from fully being with others; therefore I choose to thank the universe for giving me another opportunity to develop my soul by knowing another person. I move easily through this experience.
2.If You Can't Release the Past
Today I take all my unhappy memories out of my body and place them in a basket. My pain, my anger, and my resentments are placed in this basket. I have an angel that takes this basket of unhappiness from my hands and flies to the outer reaches of the universe and transforms it into loving energy that will revisit me later today. I forgive those around me and ask for divine assistance to hold me in a state of continual forgiveness.
3.If Your Family Did Not Allow You to Bloom
Spring is guaranteed to come. I can bloom no matter what the weather, because I am growing spiritually each day. Today I take time to notice how I have bloomed so beautifully despite my circumstances. I am capable of reaching for the sun and sky because that is my natural state. I am reaching upward every day and do so joyfully, knowing I am grounded in the life cycle of spiritual development.
4.If You Have Trouble Forgiving
I forgive because I am capable of expressing compassion. By forgiving, I release this situation from my energy field and feel clear-headed and full-hearted. I forgive because I am able to rise to my higher self and feel lighter. My light knows no boundaries when I forgive. Life feels lighter when I forgive.
5.If You Have Frequent Family Feuds
I choose to be a spectator, not a participant, in a negative energy generation. I facilitate healing by taking time to ask for divine assistance for this family's difficulties. I visualize these family members embracing one another for their diversity and know that each one helps another on their soul journey. Every loving and positive word I speak about my family helps to generate more healing.
6.If You Have a Bad Attitude
Today I change my focus by championing a new cause. I am the ambassador of positive thinking. I spread health, wealth, love, and happiness wherever I go. I love watching how my positive statements dissolve negativity in others. I am my own instrument of renewal of positive energy, and my positive outlook is stored deep within me. Every positive statement I make is rewarded.
7.If You Repeat the Same Patterns
I keep experiencing the same events in my life because I have not learned a lesson at the deep level of the soul. I am committed to changing my behavior, attitude, and negative belief systems. I learn from past mistakes. Life is a self-educational process and I am a perceptive individual. I watch others as they model what I need to learn. I love all my talents as well as my imperfections because that is what makes me the beloved person I am.
8.If Your Family Has Patriarchal Attitudes
I am a spark of the Divine; therefore I am of the same soul substance as everyone else. From this day forward, I recognize my gifts of both male and female energy and reclaim a balanced image of my infinite power. Those who do not believe in me are denying part of their own divine nature; therefore they have no power over me. I am supported by Mother God!
Stephen Covey - Management Guru
Have you read this before? If not, discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane arriving late, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
Imagine, you are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. Here is how people react typically:
Ø You curse.
Ø You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
Ø She breaks down in tears.
Ø After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
Ø A short verbal battle follows.
Ø You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Ø You come back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.
Ø She misses the bus.
Ø Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
Ø You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Ø Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
Ø You get pulled over, After a 15-minute delay and throwing a $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Ø Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
Ø After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Ø Your day has started terrible.
Ø As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
Ø You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Ø Coffee splashes over you.
Ø Your daughter is about to cry.
Ø You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Ø Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.
Ø After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.
Ø She turns and waves.
Ø You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Ø Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
o If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
o You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
o How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Ø Do you lose your temper?
Ø Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off.
Ø Do you curse?
Ø Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Ø Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
o You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
o The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!